Out with the old
Welcome to January! The dumpster fire that was 2020 is giving way to a new decade, a new administration, a new vaccine, and a new hope (though not of the Star Wars variety).
Whether you've spent the last few days culling down your social media friend lists, clearing out your inbox, or clearing off your countertops, I suspect you're also mentally preparing for the year ahead.
At the start of every year, that hope and mental preparation typically equates to goal-setting. I know: how predictable that a coach is posting about goals in January. I'm disappointed in myself, too... but before I get to goals I want to say one thing
(hoists herself onto a soap box)
“Resolutions and all the inspirational quotes and social media churn surrounding them may make you think that you have to change or overhaul your life because it’s a new year. That’s absolutely not true. ”
(hops down from a soap box)
Is the start of the year a good time to take a moment to reflect on where you are and where you want to be? Sure. Can you also do that reflection on a random Tuesday in May? Yes. Are goals and change and transformation easy one-and-done activities? Nope. Coaches and therapists and friends and partners and the Internet and books and your pets can all help and support you on your journey.
But if you're feeling like making a tweak to your life, if you're looking to set some goals or-- as I like to call them-- I Want statements to help you dominate in this new year, here are four tips to help drive your success and make those goals stick:
Tip 1: Capture Your I Want Statement
Think about where you are in your life (or your work, or your relationships, or with fitness, etc.). Really think about it for a moment.
Then, think about where you want to be. What does that look like? What does it feel like? Can you taste it? Hear it? Smell it? Engage all of your senses to imagine it.
That, my friends, is your I Want Statement. It should have Goldilocks's idea "just-right": big-but-not-too-big and specific-but-not-restricting. Are you feeling both exhilarated and nauseous about this I Want? If yes, then it's an excellent goal.
Tip 2: One Bite At A Time
Achieving your goal isn't going to happen overnight. You have to break it down into small, bite-sized chunks and commit to focused work to drive that goal to success. Your I Want may have a bunch of little I Wants as you start to clarify your journey towards success. Take into account obstacles that you imagine may get in your way, and strategize now to prevent them from derailing you.
Tip 3: Know What Success Looks Like
How will you know you've reached your goal if you don't spend a moment imagining success? How will you measure your progress toward that goal? To get science-y, don't forget to give yourself both quantitative (numeric, or countable) and qualitative (feeling, action, behavior) ways to track your progress.
Tip 4: Deadlines & Accountabili-buddies
Napolean Hill (the Think & Grow Rich guy) said "A goal is a dream with a deadline." Without giving yourself a date or time by which you want to achieve your I Want and see results, you're going to get stuck in "whelmed" reverie. You're doing for the sake of doing. You're stuck in neutral. You won't realize results for yourself.
For each big I Want and each bite-sized chunk, identify a "by when" date. Give yourself a bunch of "by whens" to keep you motivated and moving towards your I Want, especially if your journey is going to be a long one.
Even though your I Want is personal, having external support can keep you accountable to yourself. Find a person in your life who can be your accountability buddy, or your accountabili-buddy if you're feeling cute. They can cheer you on, they can prop you up, and they can help get you back on track and hold you to your commitment to yourself.
Let me know how I can help you as you're planning and crushing your goals. Not sure you're on the right track? Let's connect and work through it together.
